Planning any sort of event involves a great deal of effort, especially when that occasion so happens to be a nuptial. Extravagant wedding decorations, personalized wedding favors, catering, entertainment and the honeymoon are just some of the many factors to be considered when aiming to host a decent and unforgettable marriage ceremony and reception.
This task gets even tougher as the families of both the bride and groom-to-be tend to dictate how they envision the special occasion. The stress can build up to even more unbearable levels once parents from both sides start disagreeing, and requesting that the setup of a certain aspect is altered completely.
As much as man or woman would like to crack under the pressure, it’s important to remain cool, say “no” to the temptation of calling everything off and eloping, and view the situation from a more positive angle.
Every obstacle that appears during the planning process is actually a wonderful opportunity for the couple to learn more about each other, which is unquestionably important in fostering a healthier relationship. In addition, the couple will get a chance to learn more about each other’s parents, and get a feel of what life will be like with them around.
If they complain about the wedding decorations, or have a few issues about the personalized wedding favors, their feedback should ideally be taken constructively. Moreover, such remarks serve as valuable information that the couple can use to better understand their future in-laws personal preferences or tastes.
When pressured by parents that want to take things over-the-top (or feel that the whole planning scheme is greatly exaggerated), the couple should keep in mind that they are the ones who have the final say on such matters.
Also, it’s crucial that the lovebirds bring up concerns regarding their meddling relatives in a polite manner. If one of the parents says that the personalized wedding favors aren’t extravagant enough, and it’s bothering the groom, the husband-to-be could say something like “as much as I value the opinion of your mother, it’d be great if we could keep the favors simplistic, just as we planned.”
Lastly, taking a break from all that strenuous planning at least once a week would definitely help deal with the stress. The couple should allot an entire day to themselves, and forget about other concerns such as wedding decorations and catering.
When constructing the plans for an event or party, many of today’s professionals have a routine formula in mind. They consider the budget you present them, tell you the most effective way to spend your money, and then voila, your event happens. Maybe the floral arrangements you had looked outstanding, maybe the three-course meal was Top Chef equivalent, or maybe you’ve never seen a fuller crowd at your party. Despite all this, did you ever stop to wonder if your guests had any memorable fun, or if your clients are going to come back to another event and refer you to their friends?
Professional party planners are wonderful, but don’t believe they will take care of every detail! We’ve all been to a party where we wish the music made you want to dance instead of sit or where you wish someone at your table would start a conversation because it’s getting awkward after 30 minutes of silent chewing. That’s why it’s crucial at any event – be it wedding reception, corporate dinner, or baby shower – that you take other people into consideration, even if the event is in your honor.
You might be wondering how this will be possible to achieve without exceeding your budget or spending too much of your personal time on the event. It may seem like a big responsibility to create the conversation or lift the mood at a party, but there are a few easy tricks to livening every party without straying from your comfort zone!
To encourage conversation, try setting up tables with chairs near the bar with and finger foods as centerpieces. If you really want your guests to mingle, placing a lovely fondue pot in the center will definitely melt away any awkwardness in the room!
If you are trying to get your friends to dance at your reception, have the band or DJ play something you know you all will actually groove to! Not everyone knows how to waltz or tango, but he or she can surely get down to the right set of music.
While it doesn’t seem like a lot to move around a few tables and add some food to them or create a better event playlist, these things are often overlooked at events. To ensure that your party is remembered for its entertaining vibe and not as a lame nose-dive, try one of these can’t-go-wrong suggestions and watch as your bash becomes a success for you and your guests!
Isn’t it humorous how as brides we are constantly reminding people of the date of our wedding? As if the save-the-date and formal invitation aren’t enough, we want our napkins and favors to have the date displayed as well! Even when our guests are at the reception and clearly know what day it is, we believe that the date means as much to them as it does to us. But except for when we reach certain milestones, we are the only ones that will celebrate our anniversary year in and year out.
In no way am I encouraging that brides stop any of these practices! After all, with as busy as our friends are these days, they need and appreciate the constant reminders so that they don’t double book your weekend. Plus, this will be one of the most exciting days of your life, so you’re only ensuring they are present to share it with you. And when guests use the wedding favors they’ve received, they are reminded of the day they spent watching you glow with happiness. If that brightens their life for even a moment, then publicizing the date was well worth the time.
Therefore, I invite you to plaster the date of your special occasion everywhere! Whether you are planning a wedding, bridal shower, or another event, make sure your guests are aware of when they will be your guests. That being said, if you feel as if you are going slightly overboard on the e-vite reminders, it might be best to tone down your party favors or trimmings.
For example, these napkins can be personalized to reflect a thank-you message to your guests, a favorite quote, or simply the names of the couple. Similarly, you can design these lip balms for the women who attend your bridal shower with whatever you title your party!
With both of these items, guests will be reminded of the fabulous time they had at your event without ever feeling inundated.
When planning a wedding, most brides forget how long the entire event will take. Even if the wedding is in the early evening, there is still a reception that may last into the wee hours of the morning. Through all of this, a bride’s hair must look stunning. After all, your wedding party and guests, should you choose to go the disposable camera route, will be snapping photos of you that will last a lifetime!
Given this, how can a bride keep her hair in control, especially if she plans to wear a veil or other accessories during the ceremony, but can’t stand to wear it while dancing at her reception? The key to this lies in the accessories. I’ve mentioned them before – a crown, fresh flowers, or gems – and they can all accentuate whatever hairstyle you’ve chosen. But, will they transfer over to a style you will want at your post-wedding bash?
Every bride will keep her reception crowd waiting while she is taking pictures at the wedding locale, but if she also has to get her hair redone, some guests may get a tad impatient given the inconvenience. Therefore, it is best to simply give a couple more squirts of hairspray to your hair, readjust your accessories, and meet your friends and family in a timely manner. Trust me, your guests will be more concerned with when they can begin dancing, eating, and drinking, than if your hair is perfect! That being said, there is something you can do while riding to your reception: change accessories!
Sure the crown with veil attached may have been a beautiful antique worn for three generations in your family, but that doesn’t mean it will allow free-flowing dancing. Or perhaps your fresh flowers will have lost their spruce after a few hours. So how can you maintain that flawless style? You must continue to accessorize! Trade in the veil for a headband or fashioned barrette. Bring a second set of flowers that can be easily replaced so that you and your hair are refreshed. Gems shouldn’t be as big of an issue, but bringing a few spares just in case some were lost is always a good idea.
With these replacements, your hair is sure to look as good as it has throughout your great hair day! Even better, you will have the pictures to prove that a great hairstyle can last however long you need it to, as long as you choose the right accessories.
First, as the bride, it will be pretty simple to know the length of your hair on the expected date. You also know whether your hair classifies as straight, wavy, or curly. These are things stylists struggle with if unknown, so you are already ahead of the game! It is your bridal right to have your dream hair when you walk down the aisle, but remember that your style has to last you through the reception. If your hair is as straight as mine, no amount of hair spray will hold curls that long, I don’t care how long I leave those rollers in! Never underestimate the power of working with your natural hair texture; “simple” isn’t always a bad word in the world of hair styles.
Once you have your texture selected – it may take a trip or two to the hair salon to decide – it is time to pick a style. Will you wear your hair in an up do, a combination, or down? Don’t be afraid to try all three, especially if you’ll be incorporating a veil into your look. It is probably a good idea to start searching through bridal magazines and websites to find some styles that you would like to try.
Whatever look you choose will inspire the great-hair day you are sure to have. You might also consider bringing a handy cosmetic bag (nothing says “Bride-to-be” like terry cloth and a pink monogram) to carry home any bobby pins, clips, or rubber bands your stylist may ask you to keep until the day of the ceremony. Often, the stylist will recreate your look based on the number of clasps that you previously had.
Remember, it is okay to tell your stylist that you don’t like the part, you want your curls bigger, or the result doesn’t match your vision. This is your special occasion, not his or hers, so your style should reflect your desires. Check back next week as we investigate the best ways to incorporate your crown, veil, fresh flowers, or jewels. These perceived obstacles will no longer stand in your way as you find you can incorporate just about anything into your style and still have a great hair day!
As soon as you decide on a date for your wedding, schedule your hair appointments! Even if you have no idea what you want for your hairstyle or for the rest of your party, appointments fill up, especia
lly if you want them done away from the salon at your home or hotel.
Over the next few weeks, we will examine many aspects of hairstyles as well as highlight a few recent style favorites. *Before we explore specific looks, consider buying a button down shirt , as seen here by Mindy Weiss. This can be a great asset to your hair appointments before and after your wedding day. I know I’ve had a wonderful up-do ruined by wearing a shirt that was even v-necked. Hair and makeup is best preserved while donning this type of blouse.
Once you have this essential accessory, you are ready to follow the introductory steps that will ensure you and your bridesmaids have “great hair days” on your special day!
Step #1: Know your length
· You will need a style for yourself and the rest of your bridal party, so talk to your bridal party on their expected hair lengths. If you want your bridesmaids to have a similar look, make sure it is something that will work for all of the girls!
Step #2: Decide on a style
· Next, decide if you want a person’s hair up or down, and then later, move on to specific styles. Many hair salons will schedule consultations so that you can approve your do before your wedding day. This will allow you to know the time each style will take so that you know how many stylists are required.
Step #3: Choose your Accessories
· This is very important, especially if you intend to incorporate a veil into your hair. Veils can be attached to a comb or tiara to ease its placement into your hair. If you do not choose to wear a veil, or if you would like other members in your bridal party to have accessories, consider fresh flowers or jewels! These can be great accents to a beautiful style
Once you have these three basic steps down, you will have covered the hair essentials. Next week, we will examine a few specific styles as well as some DIY styles to try if one of the ladies in your bridal party has some hair experience. In the meantime, if you have any pictures of styles you are interested in, please post them so we can see what other brides are considering!
How can you possibly choose, out of 365 days in a year, the perfect one for your wedding? Well, we can narrow it down to Saturdays, so 52 possible choices. But now – do you strive for a date that is convenient for your family, or the date that allows you to have your wedding at the location of your choice? Do you have the wedding in the summer or fall? Do you check with your friends first to make sure none of them already have plans that day or weddings of their own? Surely you’ve seen the latest wedding film, Bride Wars emphasizing the importance of not having your wedding on the same day as your best friend’s!
If you’re flexible, it’s more than likely you will select an open date after whatever length of engagement you believe is right – whether that’s 6 months or 18 months. However, if you’ve been imagining that beautiful summer wedding on the beach since you were 8 years old, there is no reason to give up this dream! If you are really indifferent, it may be best to ask around to your bridesmaids and family and see what dates they don’t have available. This way you can ensure that your date becomes their priority.
Once you and your fiancé have decided on the date, it is imperative you send out your “Save the Date” cards (or refrigerator magnets – a recent favorite that can be purchased right here at Gracious Bridal).
If you don’t send these out early enough, you risk attendance at your ceremony and reception being low. Although that can be a good thing if you are inviting more people than you have room for, you likely still want your closest family and friends to reserve that date for you. Some “Save the Date” cards arrive more than a year in advance (which is acceptable if you want your guests to have time to save up for a destination wedding or if your wedding is on a holiday weekend), but it is generally customary to give at least 4-6 months notice to invitees. This will allow for proper planning, gift purchasing and the time it will take to process RSVPs once the real invitations are sent out.
While planning a wedding can be stressful, setting a date is one of the biggest accomplishments. Once you have a date, the wedding begins to fall into place. What may seem like a big hurdle now, will likely be one of the toughest decisions you make. If you have any qualms or questions about dates or are interested in more ideas for “Save the Date” cards, please feel free to ask!